Relationship Musings

I think some guys make the mistake of wanting a long-term relationship so they won’t have to put so much work into gaming women. This is a logical fallacy of the highest order. It takes every bit as much work, if not MORE, to attempt to keep one woman in all her never-ending fickleness happy than it does to go out and game other chicks.

The problem is, the longer you’re with a girl the more reason she has to believe the pussy pipeline of your past has all but dried up. Without the threat of outside competition to keep her on her toes, the worse her treatment of you will become. This is why you must continue to game other women even whilst in a relationship.

I’m not saying you have to cheat nor am I saying not to. That choice is yours. You do need to keep your skills sharp, however. At bare minimum, you should be approaching girls who catch your eye and make conversation with them. Game is like a muscle, it takes a long time to build and can quickly atrophy if it isn’t used. Should things unexpectedly go south with you and your girl, wouldn’t you rather have the confidence to go out and pick up another right away? Or, even better, already have others in your rotation?

Although it would be nice to be in a relationship with a woman that doesn’t take you for granted, in the long run it’s just not realistic. By becoming her boyfriend you lose your independent essence, a key component of what attracted her to you in the first place. Without that, her attraction to you will eventually fade. And to think, women have the nerve to say men are the only ones more interested in “the chase.”

Once you enter into a relationship with a woman, and commit yourself to an agreement of exclusivity, you lose A LOT of leverage. Women may like security in financial matters, but despite their protestations to the contrary, they don’t like romantic security.  Loyalty is a trait men greatly admire, and rightfully so. But if a woman knows she’s got you “on-lock” it’ll turn her snatch drier than the Sahara.  It’s boring to them.

It isn’t that women want to be cheated on per se, although some are no doubt gluttons for punishment. It’s that (and this shouldn’t come as any great shock) women want men of such value they’re afforded opportunities to cheat but instead choose not to. However, in the event such a high-value man should happen to stray, it’s not uncommon for a woman to choose to share him with another rather than go without him and whatever he provides.

If you’re a man of more modest value, it’s likely you’ll develop a case of “one-itis” and over-value your girl. The easiest way to avoid one-itis is by not allowing yourself to become a “kept man” in the first place. As a wise man once said, “Always keep two in the kitty.” It’s sound advice.

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Author: leonevolpe

"The lion cannot protect himself from traps, and the fox cannot defend himself from wolves. One must therefore be a fox to recognize traps, and a lion to frighten wolves." - Niccolo Machiavelli, "The Prince"

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